I long for the day that cancer stops being a "C" word.
What I mean is that cancer continues to be this conversation stopping, facial expression changing word that can kill a mood in seconds. So cancer patients feel discouraged to discuss it, and thus lose support and possibly life-changing valuable information.
And look, I know people are just trying to empathize and be kind, and I know that cancer is such a life changer and it continues to kill people and ruin lives...
But let's not make it any worse by talking to cancer patients as if they're already dead. Don't stare at us as if like we got the Grim Reaper's arm slung around around our shoulders.
We're not dead.
Until we're ACTUALLY dead, we're not dead.
Talk to us like we're alive.
Because we're doing our best to be as alive and as positive as possible, and your empty void expressions and awkward silences isn't making us feel any better about diagnosis.
If you literally have no idea what to say, put a smile on your face, and say, "It's really great to see you".